October 30, 2010

Accepting the Challenge

I read several blogs.  Funny ones, sincere ones...a lot of awesome blogs written by amazing men and women (most of whom I have never met and don't actually know their real names).  I look forward to the kids' bedtime each night because that's when I can finally sit down and read the hilarity with which these (mostly) women describe their days.  I love feeling like there is someone out there who understands the daily struggle and intense JOY of being a mommy.  Anyway, one of the blogs I read is written by an amazing Christian woman known as Much More Than Mommy.  She is a fantastic writer and I love her take on things.  Plus, I know her sister, and her sister is cool, so why wouldn't she be awesome as well?  Anyway, she shared a challenge she is taking on and, though she wasn't necessarily sharing this in order to persuade her readers to do the same, I have decided to participate.  You can read more about the challenge here.

So, here goes.  For the next 30 days...


* You (I) can't say anything negative
about your (my) husband ...
to your (my) husband...or to anyone else, 
about your (my) husband.
* Say something that you (I) admire or appreciate 
about your (my) husband...
to your (my) husband...
and to someone else, about your (my) husband.
This is gonna be interesting!  See, I have a lot of love for my husband.  I try to share how awesome I think he is and all the great things he does for me and the kids here on the blog whenever I write.  Why don't I do this to his face???  If anyone has ever read or heard of "The Five Love Languages," then you might know that encouraging words is one of those languages.  Chris' dominant love language is encouraging words.  I know this, and have known this for YEARS.  Do I do anything about it?  Do I express my love to him through words?  Not a lot.  WHY????  
Am I, like others, afraid it'll go to his head and he'll get some kind of major ego?  And if so, why is that a problem?  Why shouldn't he feel good about himself and feel proud of the job he's doing as a husband and father?

Is it that I'm afraid he'll think I'm lying?  Could happen...after all, I don't praise him to his face a lot of times.  I tell other people how awesome he is and I'll tell them about how he lets me sleep in on Saturdays and lets me take long, luxurious naps on Sundays while he handles the kids.  I love this and revel in every minute this pampering...but if/when I start telling him how much I appreciate him, he might just freak out a little bit.  He might think I'm being "fake" or maybe just trying to get something out of him.  I'll deal with it, though, because he is worth it.  And he desperately needs to know how much I love and respect him.  I tend to think he should "just know" how I feel about him, but the truth is, so many times that assumption is totally wrong and the people we love the most NEED to hear it from us.  
So here we go.  I know its not officially November 1 or anything, but I'm starting now.  Two more days isn't gonna hurt. :)  Wish us luck!

2 comments:

Much More Than Mommy said...

GOOD LUCK!!! :-) Thank you for sharing this!

Lynette said...

real simply Anna, Your husband does ROCK. Just ask all the kiddos he has helped through the years. You have a special God sent man with you. And Denea aka College Girl still talks about your wedding....none of the teens could decide on which side of the church to sit on as both of y'all were their mentors.

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